“There is no secret ingredient”
This is a quote from the movie “Kung Fu Panda” when Po, the Panda realizes that there is no secret ingredient in the soup that his father makes. This is the turning point of the movie and as they say, the rest is history.
Similarly, there is no secret to losing weight or to making money. But, it is another story that most of us believe that there is a short-cut. So, we are always in search of a pill or a lottery to help us get “there” easily. “There” being whatever goal we have. At the back of our minds we all know that it is the effort and the time that we put into our goals that will “get us there”. We all know that even if we “get there”, it could be the beginning of another “getting there”. But if we are reaching a goal to start another then what is the end-game?
In my honest opinion the end-game is simple. The end-game in this life is to be able to look back and have the least number of regrets. As I have yet to come across an old person who does not have regrets, I am assuming that there will be some regrets no matter how successful one is .
One of the most successful movie stars of Indian cinema, Amitabh Bachchan tweeted one day about his regret that he did not read all of his dad’s poetry when his dad was alive. Based on my experience, I can safely say that the end game in this life at least, is to have as little regrets as humanly possible. For the sake of simplicity, I do not want to go into any discussion of after-life at least for now. Now that we want to minimize the regrets when we look back into the past, let us first understand what a regret feels like.
Coulda Woulda Shoulda
A regret is when you say I coulda/woulda/shoulda done x at the right time. For you x could mean not investing in Apple stock or x could mean not eating an Apple a day. As the song, sung by Celine Dion goes…
Coulda woulda shoulda but I didn’t do that
Just throw in everything you’ve got
Because in love there is no holding back
A regret feels like you held back, you did not love life fully. You did not give life everything you’ve got.
In my next post, I will explore how you can give life everything you’ve got.
to be continued…..